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Pi in the Sky

2/15/2010

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Being Thankful For What Is.
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Be thankful for the things you have in life. For your loved ones, family and friends, for your health, your job, the roof over your head and the food on your table, for the clothes you wear and the car (or other mode of transport) you drive.  So things aren’t perfect. So what? Have they ever been perfect? And even if they have been, they didn’t stay that way did they? That’s not a rhetorical question. Really, think about it then answer it for yourself. Don’t worry, there are no wrong answers and you won’t be graded. Hint: If you think the promise of sustained perfection is pi in the sky, you’re on the right track.

Let me give you an example, I used to have a good paying job, but it wasn’t perfect. My commute was 1.25 hours each way. Then I got laid off. I lost the commute and gained more time with loved ones, but I also gained unemployment benefits. Definitely not perfect. I recently found a new job. I’m thankful for that, but I know it won’t be perfect.

What’s my point you ask? Life is not perfect. There is always something else we want, think we need, would change if only…. There will always be accidents or unhappy circumstances, or unfortunate events. So too will there be days filled with unexpected pleasures and joy. In other words, there will always be ups and downs. Some things are under our control for some of the time, others are not. And outside of a few fleeting moments here and there none of it will be perfect.

So what are you left with? Being thankful! Appreciating the things you have, and the people you love. Appreciating them in the here and now because, whether we like to admit it or not, things change and they change all the time. So if things change all the time, and we never know what the next day is going to bring, its best to cultivate a deep appreciation for what is at this very moment. It’s also good to cultivate an ability to be detached from a particular outcome. If we are not attached to how we think something should be or look then we are free to appreciate what ever happens as it is.


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Whose Fear Is It?

1/21/2010

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A comment on my last post from a reader got me thinking about fear; that four letter word that few want to talk about. So I decided to talk about it.

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Fear is one of those things that we are ready to admit to having if it is a socially accepted fear, such as a fear of spiders or growing old.  A real, potentially life-threatening fear, such as having your house broken into, or coming face to face with a bear on a secluded trail is also OK to discuss.

But those kinds of fear, which may be life-impacting in their own way, are not the fears I am talking about.
I’m talking about the little insidious fears we all have, that we may not even know we have. For example, fear of buying something you really like because you are worried your friends might laugh so you think “it’s not me”. Fear of doing something you really want to do because your friends or family will think you’re crazy. What about limiting yourself at work because you’re worried your coworkers would accuse you of brown-nosing. There is always going to be someone who is critical of your choices. But it shouldn’t be you.

How to Deal

Recognize fear when it comes. Examine its roots. Is it your fear or did you inherit it? Greet it out loud and then dismiss it. It is not welcome. You must act immediately though or it will seep into your mind where it will carry on never-ending conversations with the voices in your head. Then you are done for!

Fear does nothing positive. Again, I’m talking about the manufactured social fears, not the fear that is healthy and may keep you from physical harm. So try doing something you are afraid of. Put yourself into the universe.

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Here’s the thing. You have to task a risk. And barring any very unfortunate accidents and illegal activity, no one is going to die, especially you. Let this be a call to find your inner courage to be the you who you already be. Fear is a choice. Don’t choose it.



Getting rid of your fears not only makes you more authentic, it makes you more confident, and nothing is as sexy as confidence!



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Whoever You Be...Be You!

1/19/2010

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So many of us go through life thinking how cool it would be if only we were taller, better looking, had more money, were more confident, were in better shape, were more popular, were more successful, etc. etc. etc. ad infinitum.

But the truth is that as soon as you get something you think you want, that you think will be the answer to that hole you are trying to fill, you will want something else. Why? Because the hole cant be filled with something outside of yourself. So, instead of seeking to be some way that you are not, just relax and be happy that you are you.

See yourself as you truly are, not as you want to be seen. Don't let others have the power to define you. Know that you belong here. You belong to the universe. You are here for a reason even if you don’t know what it is. You are an integral part of the process of the universe. You answer to no one but the universal consciousness.

No one else walks the earth with your perspective or experience. You add value in whatever you do, and wherever you go.  Therefore be you. You are unique, and you are special.

Do not feign emotion or actions that you do not feel or are not you. Do not fool yourself or others. Know yourself. Put your true self into the world.

Know your archetypes. Be true to them no matter what. Your archetypes are a gift. They help define who you are. Do not squelch them, do not bury them. Celebrate them. Understand their strengths and weaknesses. Guard against the weaknesses but otherwise honor and nurture yourself.

"Power is the free and total expression of spirit through a particular form or personality." – unknown.

 You are that power!


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Roll Your Own

1/11/2010

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There is a passage in the Buddhism section of “The Worlds Religions” that attributes the following to the Buddha.
  • “Work out your own salvation. Do not depend on others.”
And I was on the path to doing just that, by writing the Book of Aedan, when I read that passage. It made me feel good that I was doing something that Buddha himself espoused. It made me look at my endeavor from a different perspective, a bigger perspective. 

The Buddha is also to have said:  
  • “Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”
This I had read before, and I wholeheartedly agree with it, and have for a long time. It was, in part, what prompted me to write down my own code in the Book of Aedan.   If you are anything like me, and have spent years wondering any of the following: What does it all mean? Where are we going? Why are we here? What if this is all there is? How can I live the best life possible? How can I be a better person? Then this might resonate with you too. 

Rolling Your Own – Step 1.

My first step was to realize that I believed a little bit from multiple disciplines, and a little bit I had come up with on my own. Then, I just wrote them down as I thought of them. This was actually quite easy. I wrote down whatever came to mind no matter where I was. 

I used my emotions as a guide. For example, if I witnessed or heard or did something that bothered me, I wrote it down. Then I would ask myself questions about it. Why did it bother me? Did it violate my values or principles? How strongly did I feel about it? I did the same for situations that made me smile, laugh, cry, or feel happy or sad etc. Again I asked myself questions. Why does that make you feel that way?  If it was something I said or did I would ask about my motivation. The more questions I asked the clearer I became as to why something was important to me. Also, for me, it was crucial that I be painfully honest with myself regardless of whether the answers ran contrary to cultural conditioning or familial beliefs. This part was NOT so easy.    

To be continued…………

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Too Much Rudeness? Stage an intervention!

1/8/2010

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I was reading an article in Psychology Today that was excerpted from the book “I See Rude People: One Woman’s Battle to Beat Some Manners into Impolite Society” by Amy Alkon.  The gist of the article, and by extension the book, is that the author is fed up with the rudeness she sees everyday and decides to take it upon herself to do something about it. You could think of her as a Miss Manners vigilante if you like. 

I could instantly recall several situations that I’ve been in where I would have liked to have shared some carefully chosen words with someone who was clearly in need of a lesson in appropriateness. The author gives a couple of hilarious examples in the article, one of which made her money!

After reading it, I thought now that’s a fantastic idea. I immediately started trying to think of new and interesting ways to call people’s attention to their lack of social skills. Unfortunately, all I came up with was the tried and true. Such as, the notepads you can buy at novelty or gift shops with various preprinted phrases (just check off the one that applies) for the rude car-parker, or shushing someone who is talking too loudly on their cell phone. But these are not exactly novel approaches, and depending on whom you shush, could even be dangerous. So I did what anyone looking for more information would do. I googled the phrase “what to do when people are rude”. Guess what I got? A list as of 17 books on rudeness, how many different ways people can be rude, and how to deal with it! Plus, there were several web sites and blog posts on the topic as well.

It really is an epidemic! I had no idea. Now I really am going to do my part, and so should you. The next time you are confronted with rudeness, stage an intervention! The country needs our help! 

You will find the full article here:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200911/two-minute-memoir-i-see-rude-people

The author’s website is www.advicegoddess.com
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How to Stay Focused

1/7/2010

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Ever notice how distracted you can get when you are simply going about your day?  An email here, an enticing website there, a coworker who starts a conversation about her weekend. Nearly anything can take you off course and then before you know it 2 hours are gone. What were you working on? Where did the time go?  It’s happened to all of us. And it can seriously interfere with your productivity at work and at home. 

I like to think of it as a by-product of this hi-tech, instant-gratification, sound-byte world we live in. But I am guessing that it has plagued people for a lot longer than that. So few of us are taught how to focus our attention on the things we really find important, and then stay focused until we reach our goal. Oh sure there are time management methodologies can help to a certain extent, by teaching you how to distinguish between what is important and what is urgent. These methodologies can work if you….wait for it….focus on using them correctly. Oh come on you knew that was coming! 

A simple time management tool might have you do the following:
  • List what needs to get done, and when it needs to happen.
  • Decide its importance.
  • Make a to-do list that ranks your tasks in order of importance.
  • Work through the list until you are done.
Simple right? Well. Um. No.

Let’s look at it from a different perspective. I call this a Buddhist perspective because that is where I learned it, and one thing that Buddhism has taught me is to notice things first, really become aware of what is actually happening and why, and then make a change if change is indeed warranted.

Who is in control?

Another way to look at your attention or your focus is to ask yourself who is in control? Do you let yourself get hijacked by way of email, walk-ups, easily being bored with the task at hand? Then you are not in control of your own attention.

The question is how do you regain control and start focusing on what’s important. It’s helpful to recognize that the wandering of our attention is an event that not only do we have control over but actually requires us to make a choice. Most of us simply don’t recognize that choice and so we get easily distracted. It’s a very simple process once that once you learn you can employ whenever you need to.

Step 1 – The first thing to do is simply recognize when you have lost your focus. If it’s been several minutes before you realize you are off track, then look back at the last little while until you come to the culprit. Maybe the email icon (or sound) flashed on your screen. Turn those off, by the way. Perhaps you overheard a snippet of a conversation that reminded you of <fill in the blank> which caused you to <fill in the blank again>. Whatever it was, notice it.  Write it down, ideally with the length of time you were distracted, then go back to your task at hand.

That’s it, just notice it and write it down. After a week or two of doing this you should see some patterns and you may even be shocked by how much time was spent doing unimportant time-filler activities.

Step 2 – Once you are good at recognizing how you are losing your focus, then you can concentrate on the moment of decision. This is where you make the conscious active decision to stay on track or go off track. If you decide that going off-task is the thing to do right now, then fine do it, as long as it is a conscious decision, and not an unconscious one.   Continue to keep track of when you are going off-task only this time record why.

Step 3 – After a week or so of doing this you should see a change in pattern. You should notice less time-filler activities and more things accomplished. Most importantly you should be feeling better about being in control of your attention rather than it being in control of you. 

Note that if you are making a lot of conscious decisions to go off-track and have valid reasons for doing so, then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your task-list or priorities. Perhaps get your manager involved in the conversation or your significant other.

I’d love to know if this helps anyone. Leave me a comment.
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Top 5 Themes from Avatar

12/30/2009

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Have you seen the movie? If not I highly suggest you do! Its multidimensional. Dont listen to the critics who tell you its all about the next step in CGI. The story line has plenty to offer. Without giving anything away, here are my top 5 themes of the movie.

1) We live in an interconnected biosphere. What's not to get people? Really I dont understand. 1 thing impacts another, and so on and so on. What's so hard about that?

2) When scientists (especially women in the movies) go up against the privitized military industrial complex, expecially when they are in bed with the megacorp, they lose! Or do they???? I'm not trying to draw parallels between our own former VP and the company he was running....I'm sure that was purely coincidental.

3) Read my lips. Privitized military is bad bad bad. ....Only out for a buck, not accountable to anyone, and hmmm strangely very familiar (see #2).....Ahem, anyway.....Repeat after me BAAAAD!

4) The planet will not only fight back she will win! You can call it revenge for poor stewardship if you like. Whatever! But to quote an old commercial from the 80's..."You don't mess with Mother Nature". Especially when she has help from those who know how to "plug in".

5) Never underestimate the power of ten foot tall, highly intelligent, super athletic, nature loving, blue monkey/cat/people. They will kick your ass!

Yesterday I read a blog where the writer suggested that the bluefolk should have been more technologically advanced. They should have kicked the human's ass form the start.  To which I say....Technology is not the only measure of a happy, healthy, intelligent, and advanced society. I say look beyond the trappings of the modern day. Look beyond your keyboard and smartphone. There is a world out there!

What say you??
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    I have had a lifelong interest in philosophy and spirituality. Finding only bits and pieces of in various texts that resonated with me, I decided to create my own code. I called it the Book of Aedan, and it was the genesis of this blog.

    "Caminante, no hay camino, Se hace camino al andar.

    Traveler, there is no path, Paths are made by walking."

    Antonio Machado (as quoted by Annie Proulx.)

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